Sticks and Stones may Break My Bones…

[hsifeng]

…but refusing to back down when you are being treated like crap generally ensures that those missiles get aimed at a more passive target in the future.

More on the concept that accepting bad treatment without responce is BS here.

Fav quote, “I once spent an hour in religion class being told that the pain I felt when someone insulted me was actually my fault, because I chose to get angry and be hurt. That's when I figured out that if you write "TURN THE OTHER CHEEK" on a piece of magical Paper of Uncomfortable Truths and hold it in front of a mirror, it reads "BLAME THE VICTIM."”

Now, where do I get the goo-gone to unstick all these damn Nerf corners from the rough edges of the world?

Comments

[shadowd1.livejournal.com]

recently a student worker went crying into a colleagues office because the faculty member she was working with yelled at her and treated her like shit. later that day the faculty member came over, and in front of me told my colleague he didn't do anything wrong; that the student worker chose to cry and she was at fault. i walked away angry stating, "you don't want me here right now." my colleague got appropriately angry with the faculty member and dressed him down. he didn't try to justify his actions after that. and, i hope it sinks in the real cause of the hurt was his actions. we react for a reason, and sometimes it is very appropriate to be angry and hurt.

[hsifeng.livejournal.com]

This. This is the kind of BS justification of, "well, they didn't have to be hurt by what I did" that I am talking about.

I'd rather that these folks just be honest and say, "I don't care if the person I said that to is hurt. It's their problem because it doesn't matter to me, not because it shouldn't matter to them."

Really, that is more honest than saying that one's actions shouldn't cause someone else to react.