Sticks and Stones may Break My Bones…

[hsifeng]

…but refusing to back down when you are being treated like crap generally ensures that those missiles get aimed at a more passive target in the future.

More on the concept that accepting bad treatment without responce is BS here.

Fav quote, “I once spent an hour in religion class being told that the pain I felt when someone insulted me was actually my fault, because I chose to get angry and be hurt. That's when I figured out that if you write "TURN THE OTHER CHEEK" on a piece of magical Paper of Uncomfortable Truths and hold it in front of a mirror, it reads "BLAME THE VICTIM."”

Now, where do I get the goo-gone to unstick all these damn Nerf corners from the rough edges of the world?

Comments

[hsifeng.livejournal.com]

Exactly! Action and reaction, both are within the personal control of the people participating. The idea that the reaction must somehow be formulated to be “nicer” than the action? Total. Horsepucky.

I can choose to overlook someone’s idiotically bad behavior. Or I can choose to bludgeon them over the head with it. Both responses are equally legit.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”?

Sure. So long as everyone understands that I fully expect that folks who I treat badly (it happens) to smack me upside my idjit head if they feel the need. And I will do the same.

[love3angle.livejournal.com]

I'll go even farther and say the even in the two-party transaction, the initiator has more responsibility. I wouldn't need to gauge my reaction if you hadn't been an asshole in the first place.

I love the phrase that the definition of "crazy" is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result. I'm a fan of trying something and if it doesn't work try something else.

If your kid tells you they're being treated badly, takes your advice, and tells you they're still being treated badly, DON'T TELL THEM TO DO THE SAME THING. *sheesh* They're not the one doing something wrong.

[hsifeng.livejournal.com]

*nods in agreement*